Category Archives: Tyler

Dedicated to a Brother

Two weeks ago I started writing a blog post about Col. Bruce Hampton and didn’t finish it before I went away on vacation. When I got home I put it aside to write a tribute to Chris Cornell, and before I hit publish I heard about Gregg Allman. This is what being a music fan […]

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Stephen Colbert on grief

In this GQ article Stephen Colbert is extremely articulate on the complicated role grief plays in the lives of the bereaved. I recognize the truth he’s arrived at here. It’s painful and it takes you years to earn it, and some time ago I earned it myself. Even before Tyler died I recognized that I […]

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Unfinished business

Wednesday was the fourth anniversary of my brother Tyler’s death. It’s strange that four years isn’t any harder to type than four weeks. It’s been long enough that I didn’t want to say or write the same things I’ve written on other anniversaries or other random moments, but you also can’t NOT notice the date. […]

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On July 22

Tuesday was my brother’s birthday. Tyler would’ve been 22 Tuesday. Both of those sentences contain the same information, but one is more complete than the other. When you lose someone in a tragic way you learn how to parcel out the facts in sentences like those, eliding things that feel awkward if you’re talking to […]

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At 10 minutes to midnight on February 29, 2012, I ran to my computer and compiled a list of nine songs I thought would sound good together. I began with Bob Marley & The Wailers’ “Concrete Jungle” from Babylon by Bus. That rush spawned a project: every month I would make a new iTunes mix. […]

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This is a type of kinda like a formal dedication

I had the pleasure of discovering the Beastie Boys twice, which makes them unique among the bands I love. The second discovery came in my mid-20s, through my youngest brother. We’d taunt each other with lyrics from Hello Nasty while playing videogames and scream along with “Sabotage” as I gunned it down the Meadowbrook Parkway. […]

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